4/19/2017 4 Comments you deserve peace!Unclenching the barriers let me fly today! The sky is the limit let me try today! Help me disentangle, help me unwind. I do not want to be judgmental, let me speak my mind… I have decided to let go of what I can’t control, be kind to myself before I rest in peace let me embrace my blessings and let me just breathe. Life will end in seconds, leaving everything behind, I want to live each moment. So help me unwind. When I was young, I always wanted to grow up! When I am grown up, I want to be a child again! At every age, we have aspirations, wishes, and desires may it be materialistic, future -related anxieties. Carried away by the feeling of heaviness, nothing can provide us solace. Nothing comforts us!! The fleeting nature of each moment generates curiosity and restlessness that hinders our positive energy and gives birth to agitation and aversion. Sceptical doubts are no less than virtual suffering-Doubting others credentials, pre-conceived notions thrive upon our positive energy, and hinder our growth. They are as bad as virtual suffering! Unhealthy comparisons -Valuing what we have and comparing it with others arises depressive feeling and anger. “Comparison is a systematic way of insulting your uniqueness and gifting yourself with misery”-H G Krishnan. That reminds me of an incident. Almost two years ago, I had a helper who was underprivileged. Four kids and a drunkard husband, who would splurge her entire salary into gambling, and drinking! Initially, she was perturbed, but gradually she discovered the panacea. Being aware of her earnings; she strategically worked on it. Taking the help of all the people whom she worked with.There was no hint of frowning on her face thereafter, never did she complain about her livelihood. Her ever-smiling face had lots to teach us. Her acceptance of being what she was capable of, and how much she can attain, helped her unclench all the hindrances. She almost lived break free, not controlled by her emotions. Not that she didn’t make a rigorous effort to do better, but by setting her goals and limits she executed the plans in an organised way. Contentment is a state of the heart, unaffected by outward circumstances. Important is to have peace of mind and acceptance for what we have and let go of the things which are beyond our control. "Begin doing what you want to do now.We are not living in eternity.We have only the moment, sparkling like a star in our hand and melting like a snowflake...." Francis Bacon Sr.
4/10/2017 0 Comments PLEASE DON'T TAKE ME FOR GRANTED!
4/9/2017 0 Comments mommy, i found my role model!
Maira comes home running from the school bus, beaming in the excitement she exclaims “Mom Ache din agaye” Removing her bag from her shoulders, with a radiant smile on her face, she starts discussing her day. Initiating the conversation she describes her SST class where the teacher explained them about the Prime Minister of India.
Surprisingly, that day she changed her uniform in no time! “Mommy, I want to be like Narendra Modi,” she exclaims Oh! So you want to become the Prime Minister of India? “No mom, not a Prime minister, I aspire to be like Modi Ji.” “Aww! That sounds interesting” I squished my eight-year-old daughter gently, made her sit next to me and started feeding her lunch. She was so overwhelmed that with every bite of her food she was going gaga. It looked like she was too influenced by Modi Ji’s individual personality and most importantly teacher’s words were embossed in her mind. I asked her politely “May, I know, why do you feel so?” Her innocence came pouring out, “He has a funny way to make kids smile by pulling their ears. Despite his busy schedule, he takes time to reply to the letters of the children in need. May it be for ailments of their family members are suffering from or lack of Railway crossings in some villages, which give a pause to their commutation." Pointing towards the maid she further adds, “Lakshmi aunty now your daughter too can study in a decent school, Modi Ji has excellent plans in his mind." Lending her ears to Maira, Lakshmi joins us, leaving all the errands of the house “Maira baby teacher ne aur kya btaya?” “Lakshmi aunty if he meets you in person he will love you, and hug you because you are making his dream of ‘Swachh Bharat’ come true. “Aap unhe Namaste bolna mat bhoolna”, he loves to greet people by folding his hands. “Once he gave a surprise to the villagers by visiting them and offering sweets to the kids. He can visit your village too. He loves traveling!” Said Maira with a big smile on her face. Caressing her, I participated in the conversation “yes! Lakshmi, she is right! One Diwali morning he went to meet the jawans on border areas. He is quite approachable and humble too. Recollecting her memories of the Republic day parade Maira prompted “I remember twice he broke the protocol and walked down to greet the crowd for anyone can do Mann Ki Baat with him” “No my sweetheart he addresses the nation on AIR and DD channel, through Mann Ki Baat. I explained.” “Oh! So, he does his Mann Ki Baat addressing us,” she grinned. Bedazzled by our conversation, joins my father- in -law from the next room. Holding a newspaper in one hand and spectacles in another. Maira quickly clings to his back and enquire him if he knows about Modi Ji’s innumerable friends, brothers, and sisters in the country. With the astounded looks, dadaji, pats on her back and proudly announces, “No my dear! That’s a confidential thing to know, but I am sure about my grand -daughter knows it all” Nodding her head with innocence she answers “It’s so simple he addresses everyone as ‘MITRON, BHAIYO AND BEHNO’. In the meantime, bell rings! Mira goes running to the door “Long time Sana aunty what a surprise! Sana embraces her and is quick to read her mind. She feels sorry for not getting her any toy this time. “That’s okay, Demonetization, I guess! Maira responds with a sulking face. Sana quickly opens her purse and takes out a bright envelope “Here is a small token for you. Buy some chocolates for yourself.” To this, Maira gives a hilarious remark “I hope this is new currency else my mommy has to get it exchanged from the bank.” Everyone had a hearty laugh! Children are born innocent they, learn what they see. Their love is pure and unconditional. Nurturing them from the tender age by consistent, caring, encouragement and affection makes them confident, strong and a good decision maker. Although they are engrossed in their world of extracurricular activities, school, and friends, they are still vigilant enough to make their mental notes. Learning is an ongoing process, they keep getting enlightened through Active and passive learning methodology. Convergent and divergent thinking also plays a vital role. Tips to help your child choose a positive role model:
Portray an aura of a ‘Positive Role model’ you wish your child to follow! All the best! |
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