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It is so beautifully said, “Marriages are like fingerprints each one is different, and each one is beautiful!”
Opposites attract each other! Maintaining the essence of a relationship, celebrating the good moments, and mulling over each other's differences life moves on. Adaptability is a challenge, and it comes gradually over the years. At times we get so accustomed of our spouse's behaviour that it registers in our subconscious mind and we almost mimic him/her, and can even anticipate the reaction in advance. It takes few years to reach a saturation point where we accept each other’s virtues and vice. Adjustment is what we call it! Now the question arises why do most couples resemble each other? 1. Gradually after few years of being in wedlock, we adapt each other’s likings and disliking. We express ourselves, through the same gestures, and end up having the same pattern of wrinkles, and lines on our visage.eg. The ones who have suffered too much of hardship will wear the same frown lines! 2. When we share the same lifestyle –It reflects in our actions. 3. Assortative mating-We generally chose our life partner, on the basis of educational qualification, height, tastes, and social background that match with us. People from similar economic and social backgrounds have similar food habits, cultures, and traditions, which makes them look homogeneous. 4. Unconscious mimicry- Human social interactions falls under this category. We all have a tendency to acquire each other's posture, mannerisms and behaviours without awareness. After few years of spending life together, our partner becomes a part of us.We habituate each other's characteristics, gestures, and styles.It starts revealing in our personality.The distant minds start thinking alike, and in the same direction!We grow together and get old together. It is so beautifully said, “Marriages are like fingerprints each one is different, and each one is beautiful!”
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4/17/2017 0 Comments THE SILENT DEAL!Lulled into the deep slumber, she didn’t pay a heed to the alarm piece. It kept ringing, but in vain! It was an everyday affair, but today she woke up by herself, seemed to be awake past night, turning and tossing, almost sleep deprived, she quickly got up, grasped her cell phone, clicked on an icon, and was awestruck for a while! Took a deep breath, while reading every line gestures on her visage kept changing. Stunned! At times could not believe her eyes, engaging herself in the dramatic monologue- really? Is it? How come? Aww ! Crazy...
Last night she had changed her Facebook profile picture, and this was the reason she couldn’t sleep, Wow, 72 likes and 36 comments! She almost jumped out of her bed in excitement. Being impressed with the people who had followed her picture and commented on it. They were the closest of all of that very day. Now let me introduce you with this very special ‘She’. .’She’ is none other than you Dear Reader! Well! Ladies, it's not only us, 'The Facebook Divas', but we have 'Facebook Greek gods' too in our category. Very much like Adams and Eves in this real world, and our so called Cupid ‘Stalkers’ this face book saga survives upon. Reminds me of a song “College Ki saheliyon se catch-up kar liya Arey college ki saheliyon se catch-up kar liya Jinko mill na paayi unko WhatsApp kar diya” What can we expect from this era of social media? (Let’s name ‘she’ as Shenel (influenced by big brand channel) Shenel visited every wall to like the post of her followers, following the theory of giving and take. The more she liked, the more followers she got in return. Now this routine work had taken the shape of a silent deal. A secret silent deal! • She immediately downloaded an application from google play “Who is following me?” Raising her BP to 190/120 because her devil neighbour was following her, but not liking her post. Desperately looking for likes and comments, Shenel demanded at least some decency from her, just one click! • In another incident, her husband posted Valentines wishes for Shenel, who was sleeping in the same room. On waking up, the elated wife replies by liking her husband’s post, and shares it on her wall. Beautiful silent deal! What a social media love! • Some people get too private and smart promoting their self-being and ruin the essence of relationships. • Social media status is another challenge especially when a single is ready to mingle. Irrespective of the reality known to people whether this individual is married or a divorcee. • A secret deal between couples: Sometimes couples overcompensate for their relationship by putting more and more pictures maintaining social status ‘Happily Married!’ Even if they do not get along. • Attention seeking syndrome is another form of a silent deal where a partner is looking for options, and keep posting selfies, just to gain attention from others, and for boosting his confidence. The magic of social media is that AT TIMES we buy happiness at the cost of unhealthy competition, and running in the rate race. In most instances, we invite people to intrude our privacy, and the outcomes are as worst as Jealousy, ostentation, wardrobe sneak peak. Few indulge into stalking business, and few into a fake relationship! We end up making 1000 of followers portraying ourselves as big shots/ celebrities, but during our tiring times, we realise there are only handful of people to stand by us. Although we all are familiar with the repercussions, we still engross ourselves in the artificial world of likes and dislikes. We participate, and suffer! Relationship disengagement is the result. But on the other side It helps us to get connected , to update ourselves on various aspects!Despite our busy schedule we celebrate reunion catching up on these sites and applications. What is required is to refrain our self from getting addicted. Meet people, cherish the moments, and celebrate each day of life. Read well, do well and encourage humanity and love! Happy reading! 4/14/2017 3 Comments I AM IN YOU AND YOU ARE IN ME!
Categories:- Siblings,childhood, 1970-1980, new generation, cousins, folks, buddiesReminiscences of my childhood are still alive! It gets me nostalgic when I looked back almost two decades ago in the 1970's and 1980's, I found myself enveloped, endeared in the lap of my grandmothers-Dadi and Nani. Felicitated by their love and blessings showered on me.
The month of May and June were a breather! Getting some respite from studies and spending time with the loved ones was like an extra frosting on the cake! Preferring to spend my entire vacation at my Nani dadis house, my parents would go extra miles by introducing me to the entire parentage. They would make sure the culture, traditions, family ethics, values, and all festivities were celebrated and followed in order to maintain the essence and pass it on to our generation. Respect for others, honesty, and empathy were commonly seen. I guess we all can relate to it! At such a tender age we would indulge ourselves in making mental notes on the family tree. Our childhood was all about meeting people, playing together, greeting everyone and extending help to every known and unknown. Life was all the more interesting for children and light-hearted grownups by playing outdoor games-Kho- Kho, Maran Peeti, Dodgeball Stapoo (hopscotch). On every family dinner Carom, Ludo and cards were the best way to keep everyone engaged. We all grew up watching Ramanand Sagar’s “Ramayana” and Mahabharata. Sometimes when the TV would not function properly. The neighbours / Relatives house was the best available option. We lived a vivacious childhood, secured and being a penchant of all without any ego hassles. Stepping forward in the new era of nuclear families where most people have 1 or 2 kids, engrossed in their own world sustaining the pressures of studies, extracurricular activities. They hardly have time to commingle with their immediate family. Parents feel helpless at times! Increasing peer pressure, home works, Olympiads and not to be forgotten grades and college cut-offs. Things are getting demanding! It's time to ponder, shall we continue the way we are heading to or there is a need for revolution? As they say, love begets love Let's take the charge and start it today, we need to go a few extra miles to shape up our kids into beautiful individuals and make the world a guarded, and secure place to live. Let's not confine our kids in our immediate family. Help them coalesce and connect with the noble populace in life whom they can count upon. We need to expand their social circumference! “Our thoughts and imagination are the only real limits to our possibilities." - Orison Swett Marden Let's create a new definition of siblings:- 1. Promote the way we were brought up- This can be done by making them aware of cultures and ethics and help them commixing with the clan. 2. Introduce your children to extended family/ folks/ kin from the same/ different vicinity -Arrange to get together, excursions so that they can meet more people and learn to be expressive and communicative. Here we can teach them value for money- One parent can take the charge of the piggy bank and all the children in the group can contribute a small but an equal amount as to buy some games or books. This will develop the habit of sharing and caring for others. 3. Emphasis on outdoor and group plays. 4. Siblings and friends live longer together as compared to parents so help them make a strong bond- work on their bonding by arranging all available resources. As said siblings are the one "We know one another's faults, virtues, catastrophes, mortifications, triumphs, rivalries, desires, and how long we can each hang by our hands to a bar. We have been banded together under pack codes and tribal laws." - Rose Macaulay 5. Give them liberty to call and meet friends/cousins by keeping a check on the conversation and activities in the independent yet controlled environment! 6. Always speak highly of others to inculcate ‘respect ‘among siblings/cousins/friends. 7. Help them develop patience and tolerance- Meeting different people from different walk of life will help them understand the variable attitude of individuals. Every child has an inborn personality sometimes they are shy, depressive, introvert or extrovert. All we need is to work on their skills where they need to improvise. 8. Kids have a materialistic approach nowadays- Refrain them from exchanging expensive gifts. Personal touch to everything can be introduced by making hand -made cards or writing appreciation notes for their friends/ cousins. This small effort will surely get them closer! 9. Cut down on a usage of gadgets even if they are playing inside the house. 10. Sleepovers: - The idea is to make them independent and adjustable. But before that, as a parent one should know the host family well! Monitoring in between is a must just to make sure no disturbing elements are involved. As a parent, it's our moral duty to make them aware of good and bad touch and other social abuses. Enlighten your child with methodical reinforcement. Proactive approach and also keeping informed about the activities and the involvement of children is quintessential! Let the child explore the world through his own eyes! Let him love everyone…. “Love” itself is so beautiful, it travels from one heart to another, without taking permissions and the journey of life becomes a seamless transition. Let’s all pledge to invest in a better future for our kids!
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Clash Royale- a game to promote the mental ability of a child! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nU8L7uagYOQ&feature=youtu.be Captivated with great dreams, when imagination takes heights, and when the sky is the limit it is the best age Adolescence! The magic of love is all around, the lot of fascination, curiosity… life seems to be a fairy tale, a fantasy, and a complete melodrama. Every child grows up reading Percy Jackson, playing with gadgets dreaming about the fictional life and imagining themselves as one of the characters of the game downloaded from Google play! Although it’s the right age when an abstract thinking of these teenagers helps them setting some long-term goals for themselves. They learn to explore and try their hands on different things but in an innovative manner! An urge to prove themselves without the interference of parents is what they believe in! Being highly energetic they go through a hormonal turmoil in their body. At this point of time, despite the fact they retaliate, we parents should help them develop socially and divert their minds towards rationalist thinking! We must convince them to come out of their cave and interact. Believing in your teenage child boosts his morale and prepare him for the life. Encouraging timely on every success they gain and discouraging them on every ill practice should go hand in hand. Sharing one of my life experiences that I recently had: - On the 11th birthday of my son we presented him a Samsung tablet thinking that he would indulge himself in reading articles and listening to some of his favourite numbers but his imagination ran crazy! He ended up downloading a few games from google play. Initially, it was okay, but then the addiction got on his minds. despite of the reminders and allocating time limit for tablet he sacrificed his outdoor play and got himself glued to the gadget. His social life went for a toss! Immediately after school, he would engross himself in fiddling and flick his fingers randomly on the game. “Again playing Clash of Royale” this had become the patent dialogue of my husband.” Now we decided to make some strategies and present them before my son in a dramatic way! Coincidentally, in his informational computer technology class at school teacher started with HTML, which is the globally recognised programming language. This time we encouraged him to make a YouTube channel where he can explain the benefits of playing clash Royale game by creating his own web page, learning, coding, social media network and linking it up with HTML.As I previously emphasised this age is perfect for learning, he learned it in no time and created his own channel. It's not about the likes and dislikes or comments he gets but more important is to channelize the energy in the right direction. Open communication and regular discussions play a vital role in the development of an individual child. Sharing his video for reference. It may not be perfect, but for us, as a parent, it's an achievement! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nU8L7uagYOQ&feature=youtu.be For more articles on life experiences, please catch me on http://thewritingpen11.weebly.com/home/please-do-not-take-me-for-granted |
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